Resting with an agitated mind and nervous system

During this video I will keep bringing you back to simple things of this moment to help ground and stabilize your nervous system. Repeating the video and doing it a few times, or sections a few times, maybe helpful. Listening often also will be helpful in re-wiring your habitual brain patterns. Feel free to push pause at any point while listening/watching.
After listening you may be then ready to do some more meditation and/or self inquiry.
(In the video I say you could do this while driving- I mean to say while *riding*. Please do not do this while driving. 🙂 )
Please let me know how this was helpful, or what would be helpful for you to watch in the future!

A couple additional bits of information:

There are still spaces in my upcoming Deepening Course , Which way to Happy? A Deepening Course exploring the innocence of unhealthy behaviors & trauma, which begins Saturday.  http://integrativehealingnow.com/blog/whichawaytohappy/

Lastly, Gathering Together, Journeying Together, Deepening Together, meets Friday at 1:30pm EST.  Support yourself in becoming truly available for your life!

 

Which way to Happy? A Deepening Course exploring the innocence of unhealthy behaviors & trauma

We all engage in activities which provide much needed relief from our busy lives and busy minds. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting relief. Giving ourselves relief can come from kindness and compassion and can invite more well being into our lives.

However, when these activities or actions bring about negative or harmful  consequences,  we can find ourselves lost in a compulsion or addiction that is doing more harm then good.  They started as a way to bring relief, but now bring suffering.


Sometimes these compulsions or addictions are overt/active- substance abuse, exercise, work, food, shopping, gambling, social media, porn/sex, to name a few. But often compulsions and addictions are much more subtle, and what I call passive: believing our stories/thoughts, an unhealthy relationship with love, attempting to control or manage life, spiritual seeking, pedalstalling teachers/ gurus, wanting or claiming to be a “special” teacher (pedastalling self).

Anything which acts as an escape from experiencing healthy intimacy with self, other and life, and brings with it negative consequences, might be considered an addiction or compulsion if we are not able to stop doing the activity/action even though it adds to our suffering.

Why do most of us engage in these activities even though they bring us suffering? In an innocent attempt to experience relief, peace and ease.  Why do so few of us experience a state of peace and ease? We were never taught healthy ways to connect with ourselves and others.

Much of this starts in the earliest of our days, when our parents were too busy or unable to attend to our emotional well being. This had a traumatic impact (the greek meaning of the word trauma is wound). We didn’t have the resources to attend to our own emotional well being, and so most of us turned to the resource we had access to: our minds. For most of us, perhaps our first addiction was believing in the thoughts we were having- taking them to be reality. Those thoughts often included defiance stories about ourselves such as “i’m not good enough,” “I’m unworthy”, and “I’m unlovable.”

Believing such thoughts, it’s no wonder that beneath almost all unhealthy compulsions or addictions is a desire to feel love, to love, or be loved.  Love addiction is so pervasive across our culture- it’s the air we breath. How could it not be when our culture itself has toxic relationships with love- and that we associate with it. From our earliest days we innocently learn and engage in unhealthy behaviors in attempts to feel love, escape from love, or “have,” love. Acknowledging these toxic dynamics can be powerfully freeing once spotted and journeyed through.

There is nothing wrong, bad or inherently shameful about having an unhealthy relationship with love (as well as food, sex, substances, and so on). These unhealthy relationships were  innocently created as we are born needing love and connection, while simultaneously often lacking the support and role modeling needed to identify what is and what isn’t lov(ing).

Getting relief was an innocent part of our survival. Discovering the true essence of love is an innocent and profound aspect of this human journey.

This deepening course will explore the innocent web of addiction and trauma, and how to loosen this web. We will explore healthy ways to experience relief. We will learn how to safely connect to ourselves, life, and other.

We will also explore brain science and how dissolving patterning isn’t a matter of will power. Your brain would actually rather do the more familiar, habitual, easy behavior- even if it’s harmful. It takes up less energy to do that, then to learn new behaviors. Which is why it takes effort, a willingness and readiness to journey through unhealthy behaviors and belief systems.

From a client of mine: “It’s really become quite clear that i can’t stop (harmful) behavior through behavior modification- it’s a symptom of something much deeper. “Trying not to” just doesn’t work. Going to the source is what really loosens the grip.”

This course is open to anyone on this authentic journey of discovering peace amidst the challenges of being fully human.

 

Course Information:

When: February 24th, March 10, March 31,  noon-2pm EST

Where:  This is an on-line course. I use zoom, which is similar to Skype. You can attend from anywhere in the world using a phone, iPad type of device, or computer!

What: On top of the 3 group sessions, you will receive a total of six individual facilitations: Four with Senior Facilitator Trainer Lisa Meuser and two facilitations with Certified Living Inquiries facilitators. The investment is $495. This counts as a prerequisite for Living Inquiries facilitator training.

You can begin to receive you sessions once payment has been received- before the group sessions start.

FREE: attendance to the February and March Embodied Gatherings for additional support.

All classes will be recorded so if you are unable to attend one, you’ll receive the recording. Also included in the course will be multiple natural rest and guided rest audios and videos, and a private FB group for participants to share and receive support.

Please email me for questions. llmeuser@me.com

 

For more information on trauma and addiction:

https://www.thefix.com/dr-gabor-mate-trauma-underlying-stigma-addiction-interview

Gathering Together, Journeying Together, Deepening Together

Support yourself in becoming truly available for your life. 

Awhile back Scott Kiloby emailed me:  “ I see so many people want to be free but stop as soon as the trauma or core story really starts to come up. Then they run.  I think it would be great idea for you to do a group,  gently guiding people…”

He didn’t know that I was already doing monthly groups at the request of the participants of deepening courses I was facilitating as well as people interested in experiencing increased well being. When the courses ended, some people would continue to come, while others would drop away. New people were always welcome.

Scott sees a need, and I love the community of groups- so I will be expanding my group to two times a month. Eventually I will be moving to Fridays- although this month I will be having one on a Saturday and one on a Friday.

There are no requirements to attend: anyone who is interested in becoming more intimate with themselves and becoming more available for their life is welcome.

We gather to intimately connect and explore the nature of being human.  In a world where it is not always easy or safe to be vulnerable, we learn that it is possible. We gather in a safe container, where we are allowed to be exactly who we are, exactly as we are. I always facilitate a guided rest. Sometimes there are a lot of questions. Sometimes I engage in a 1:1 facilitation while everyone else follows along silently. Sometimes I teach ways to assist with self inquiry, or ways to heal the nervous system. Participation is always optional. <3

We come to learn about ourselves, together.

 

When we don’t know ourselves we aren’t aware of thoughts we’re having, or our relationship to them. When we don’t know ourselves we aren’t aware of what triggers us, or even that we’re triggered. When we don’t know ourselves we don’t know what we need or want, or what has been missing with regards to our needs and wants. When we don’t know ourselves we don’t know what we’re feeling, or if it’s safe to feel. When we don’t know ourselves we become at the mercy of forces outside ourselves to take care of us because we don’t know ourselves well enough to take care of ourselves. When we don’t know ourselves it’s like having a party and all the guests showing up with masks on. Can you imagine such a party? I’m guessing there would be very little intimacy or connection. How can we love ourselves, how can we have compassion for ourselves, if we’re disconnected from ourselves?

When we know ourselves we are aware of our thoughts and if they have significance for us. When we know ourselves we know our needs and wants, and how to get them met without resorting to drama or manipulation. When we know ourselves we’re familiar with sensations, and how to connect with them in a way that feels safe. When we know ourselves we can develop a reservoir of inner resourcing, which empowers us and makes it possible for us to hold space for ourselves, love ourselves and offer compassion to ourselves. When we know ourselves we no longer feel like children caught in adult bodies, but capable human beings. When we know ourselves, we are aware- we are self-aware.

It’s easy to get to know ourselves, but it takes time, and often some guidance, as we learn how to do so. For most of us, no one has helped us to really get to know ourselves. In fact, too often we’re taught and encouraged to put all our attention outwards, and we lose our own sense of self in the process.

This monthly gathering will focus on practical and experiential exercises that are specifically designed for the development of self-awareness. There will be time for questions and optional sharing amongst group members. We will meet for 60-75 minutes on zoom. Each call will be recorded, and yours to keep. Please contact me with questions.

Upcoming dates:

January  20, 12-1:15 EST

January 26, 1:30-2:45pm EST

February 9 and 23, 1:30-2:45pm EST

Investment: Sliding scale based on income: 10- $15, paypal to llmeuser@me.com, subject line “Gathering.”  Free to those in my current deepening courses.

Minimum required 4. Maximum is 15 people.

To read more about embodiment:

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/05/embodiment-10-things-to-know-about-this-buzz-word-lisa-meuser/

For more, visit my blog, where I write almost exclusively about embodiment. http://integrativehealingnow.com/blog/

Holiday Rest Audio

Click here for the drop box link

 


Here is a 15ish minute rest I facilitated yesterday for a group. Feel free to download and keep for yourself. 🙂
(Please excuse the poor quality- it was done spontaneously on my phone)

There might be times when you’d like to explore longer then I give time for. Use the pause button whenever it feels right to stay longer with what you’re experiencing.

The gift of rest has been profound for my life. If you’d like more recordings, please send me an email:  llmeuser@me.com

If you have requests for a particular kind of rest exploration, let me know! <3

Happy Holidays!

Upcoming Deepening Course: The innocent web of trauma and addiction

Love addiction is so pervasive across our culture- it’s the air we breath. How could it not be when our culture itself has toxic relationships with love- and that we associate with it. From our earliest days we innocently learn and engage in unhealthy behaviors in attempts to feel love, escape from love, or “have,” love. Acknowledging these toxic dynamics can be powerfully freeing once spotted and journeyed through.

A hiding place for love addiction can often be spotted in spirituality as we attempt to find belonging, specialness, and wholeness. This can lead to
*incessant and desperate spiritual seeking
*pedastalling teachers
*wanting or claiming to be a “special” teacher (pedastalling self)

Other hiding spots include substance abuse, technology use (facebook/phone/tv and/or movie watching, gaming), seclusion and/or isolation, exercise,  thinking/ trying to control through the mental realm, gambling, shopping, work, eating, sex and/or porn, or anything which acts as an escape from experiencing healthy intimacy with self, other and life.

There is nothing wrong, bad or inherently shameful about being a love addict/having an unhealthy relationship with love. It’s innocently created as we are born needing love and connection, while simultaneously often lacking the support and role modeling needed to identify what is and what isn’t lov(ing). Discovering the true essence of love is an innocent and profound aspect of this human journey.

I will be having a deepening course in the next couple months which will explore the web of addiction and trauma. It will be open to anyone on this authentic journey of discovering peace amidst the challenges of being fully human. Specific times and dates will be released soon- will be in February and March.

Please let me know if you’re interested or have questions!  llmeuser@me.com

For more information on trauma and addiction: https://www.thefix.com/dr-gabor-mate-trauma-underlying-stigma-addiction-interview

Connecting together: A Gathering of Support and Solace during the holidays

Getting to know you: An Embodied Monthly Gathering

This gathering is purposely scheduled on what might be a busy holiday weekend as this is often the time we most need to take an hour for ourselves. We will spend our time together connecting inside ourselves and  connecting with others who are on this embodied journey.

Participation is always optional. <3

More on what inspires these monthly gatherings:

When we don’t know ourselves we aren’t aware of thoughts we’re having, or our relationship to them. When we don’t know ourselves we aren’t aware of what triggers us, or even that we’re triggered. When we don’t know ourselves we don’t know what we need or want, or what has been missing with regards to our needs and wants. When we don’t know ourselves we don’t know what we’re feeling, or if it’s safe to feel. When we don’t know ourselves we become at the mercy of forces outside ourselves to take care of us because we don’t know ourselves well enough to take care of ourselves. When we don’t know ourselves it’s like having a party and all the guests showing up with masks on. Can you imagine such a party? I’m guessing there would be very little intimacy or connection. How can we love ourselves, how can we have compassion for ourselves, if we’re disconnected from ourselves?

When we know ourselves we are aware of our thoughts and if they have significance for us. When we know ourselves we know our needs and wants, and how to get them met without resorting to drama or manipulation. When we know ourselves we’re familiar with sensations, and how to connect with them in a way that feels safe. When we know ourselves we can develop a reservoir of inner resourcing, which empowers us and makes it possible for us to hold space for ourselves, love ourselves and offer compassion to ourselves. When we know ourselves we no longer feel like children caught in adult bodies, but capable human beings. When we know ourselves, we are aware- we are self-aware.

It’s easy to get to know ourselves, but it takes time, and often some guidance, as we learn how to do so. For most of us, no one has helped us to really get to know ourselves. In fact, too often we’re taught and encouraged to put all our attention outwards, and we lose our own sense of self in the process.

This monthly gathering will focus on practical and experiential exercises that are specifically designed for the development of self-awareness. There will be time for questions and optional sharing amongst group members. We will meet for 60-75 minutes on zoom. Each call will be recorded, and yours to keep.

 

Please contact me with questions and for the dates as the dates change each month.

Winter dates:

December 23rd, 12-1:15pm EST.

(January’s date: January 20th, 12-1:15 EST)

Where: Zoom, link sent after payment is received.

Cost: $15, paypal to llmeuser@me.com, subject line “Gathering.”

To read more about embodiment:

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/05/embodiment-10-things-to-know-about-this-buzz-word-lisa-meuser/

For more, visit my blog, where I write almost exclusively about embodiment. http://integrativehealingnow.com/blog/

Discover your invitation to Re-set, and Rest

This is reposted from the Living Inquiries web site: http://www.livinginquiries.com/discovering-re-set-button/

Synopsis: There is the invitation to reconnect, to start over, to re-set… in every breath, in every moment.

 

I was lying in bed the other morning- thinking thinking thinking.

Thinking about a guy. Thinking about my daughter. Thinking about my calendar and my clients and my mom and my to-do list and and and and… Before I knew it I was thinking about thinking, and I was well on my way to being caught up in “it.”

 

You know “it,” don’t you? I think of “it” as a hamster wheel that moves around and around, containing within it “the shit stack” of life stuff that needs to be solved, figured out, and evaluated. Oh, this hamster wheel! It has the potential to pull one in when they least expect it.

 

We all have multiple internal hamster wheels. Some are massive and seem to be made up of the entirety of life itself. Others are small, or less noticeable, and are in and out of our attention. Regardless of size, though, once we are aware that our focus is racing away inside a hamster wheel, we’re no longer utterly consumed by it but, instead, are in relationship with it. This is an amazing first step – an empowering first step – because from that place of awareness we can then direct our attention towards something other than the hamster wheel…

 

Said another way, sometimes all it takes to throw a wrench in the works of that hamster wheel is the recognition that our attention is being consumed by it in the first place. Experiencing massive mental activity is the first sign for me – I can literally feel the tension in my head. And then having that awareness of “Oh!! I am really ‘mentaling’ right now!” allows me to give pause, and change behavior.

With one fully engaged breath, I can change my path.

 

That’s what happened on the morning I mentioned, as I was lying in bed thinking myself into a flurry. One deep breath, and all of a sudden my system was reset. Did my “problems” go away? Did the calendar empty out? No. Nothing really changed…except my attention. But that changed everything. My body relaxed. My senses awakened. I was present.

 

We can be so busy in our lives, taking in more and more data as we go.

Think about it- Every cell in our body has a sense receptor, so our bodies are constantly taking in sensory information. We’re quite literally “sense receptor mechanisms,” so it’s no wonder we are overwhelmed by the end of the day! But we don’t have to be, if we can just pay attention.

 

Due to habit, most of us continuously “tune out” or become dissociative in the face of overwhelm. This is an innocent strategy but is not sustainable, and bit by bit it actually adds to our experience of overwhelm. Luckily there is another way! We can choose to curiously and gently work with ourselves in such a way as to not feel overwhelmed by the end of the day, by simply resetting our systems.

 

At any moment we can push the reset button.

 

Pushing the reset button allows us to release old data so that we can take on fresh data.
Pushing the reset button allows us to experience the present moment, instead of living from the hamster wheel of the chaotic mind.
Pushing the reset button allows us to feel, instead of engaging in unhealthy behaviors which keep us from feeling.

 

How can we push the reset button?

There’s obviously no actual button to push, but we can experience a reset through conscious and mindful attention. Here are a few simple suggestions:

 

Stop. This is the first step to a reset. Take moments throughout the day to literally stop moving, and/or take moments throughout the day to stop ‘mentallizing’ (e.g. figuring out, analyzing, problem-solving, evaluating, judging, or thinking about thoughts). Stop any engagement in action and do-ing, and bring yourself into a state of “non-productivity.” While stopped, consciously bring attention to your breath. The breath can reset your system in a variety of ways: it can reset your nervous system; it can put a wrench in that hamster wheel; and it can bring your awareness into the present moment.

 

Slow down. As just mentioned, slowly bring your awareness to the present moment, through breath (or sensation). It’s impossible to breathe in the past, or to breathe in the future. It follows that, when you bring attention to the breath that is happening right now, you’ll automatically be bringing attention to the present moment. Follow the cycle of breath – all the way from your nostrils, down through your body to your lungs and belly, and then back up. Feel your body being engaged with the breathing that is happening in this moment. Some people find bringing attention to their breath triggering. If this is the case for you, go ahead and bring your attention to physical sensations: feeling into your toes, fingers, or sit bones, for example.

 

Simplify. Bring attention to the simplest of happenings, right now. Have you ever noticed that the mind loves to complicate everything? When you notice that everything seems extremely complicated, you’re likely caught smack dab in the centrifugal force of the hamster wheel. Find something – anything – simple in your present situation. Maybe it’s your feet on the floor, or your butt in the chair. Maybe it’s air moving in and out of nostrils. Maybe it’s the sounds or scents being perceived. Or the wind on your face. Maybe it’s the blinking of your eye lids.

 

Feel. Feel into the simplicity you’re connecting with. Don’t focus on thinking about your feet on the floor, but feeling your feet on the floor. Feel the air coming in and out of your nostrils. Feel your ribs move with your breath cycle. Feel the wind/air on your face.

 

Curiosity. Engage your curious inner child. Be curious about… well, about anything! Be curious about the leaves blowing in the wind. Or the sound of the birds. Or how you can feel your heartbeat move through your body. Being curious opens the neural network in the brain’s right hemisphere which helps to facilitate awareness and spaciousness. Being curious is not about finding answers or figuring anything out – it’s precisely the opposite. It’s similar to wondering, just for the sake of wondering.

 

Once you’ve stopped yourself in your (mental or literal) tracks, continue to curiously and slowly stay present, allowing your nervous system – and maybe even your day – to reset. It always amazes me to rediscover how much less stressful life becomes when I engage in reset practices. I no longer feel the pressure to “figure out,” and the tendency to get caught up in “it” loosens its hold.

Please try these suggested techniques next time you find yourself thinking thinking thinking away on that hamster wheel. I suspect that with a little practice you’ll find that, as a result, life becomes more fluid, restful, and enjoyable!

 

 

Let us Breath

A client today explored his need to seek out solutions. “What if, as a child, I was taught or guided to just feel, instead of immediately look for solutions”, he pondered.

Of course there is nothing wrong with wanting solutions to problems. But too often, in this fixing and solving and left brained focused world we live in, we forget to feel and we seek through solutions.

What if we spent a moment on feeling before jumping into solutions? There’s feelings under all that, waiting to be felt.

What if we stayed put, and breathed with what’s actually here now, instead of distracting ourselves away from what’s here now?

Sometimes we can act AND feel. Jump, scream, yell, cry. Let those emotions act through you. Feeeeeeeeel what you’re feeling.

When we jump to solutions to evade feeling, the feelings don’t go away. The pain, the fear, the anger, the grief… it all stays.

When the seeking is released, and the feelings allowed, wisdom in the form of solutions will arise naturally from the ashes. Until then, let us hold ourselves. Let us breath. Let us breath.

Getting to know you: An Embodied Monthly Gathering

Getting to know you: An Embodied Monthly Gathering

 

When we don’t know ourselves we aren’t aware of thoughts we’re having, or our relationship to them. When we don’t know ourselves we aren’t aware of what triggers us, or even that we’re triggered. When we don’t know ourselves we don’t know what we need or want, or what has been missing with regards to our needs and wants. When we don’t know ourselves we don’t know what we’re feeling, or if it’s safe to feel. When we don’t know ourselves we become at the mercy of forces outside ourselves to take care of us because we don’t know ourselves well enough to take care of ourselves. When we don’t know ourselves it’s like having a party and all the guests showing up with masks on. Can you imagine such a party? I’m guessing there would be very little intimacy or connection. How can we love ourselves, how can we have compassion for ourselves, if we’re disconnected from ourselves?

When we know ourselves we are aware of our thoughts and if they have significance for us. When we know ourselves we know our needs and wants, and how to get them met without resorting to drama or manipulation. When we know ourselves we’re familiar with sensations, and how to connect with them in a way that feels safe. When we know ourselves we can develop a reservoir of inner resourcing, which empowers us and makes it possible for us to hold space for ourselves, love ourselves and offer compassion to ourselves. When we know ourselves we no longer feel like children caught in adult bodies, but capable human beings. When we know ourselves, we are aware- we are self-aware.

It’s easy to get to know ourselves, but it takes time, and often some guidance, as we learn how to do so. For most of us, no one has helped us to really get to know ourselves. In fact, too often we’re taught and encouraged to put all our attention outwards, and we lose our own sense of self in the process.

This monthly gathering will focus on practical and experiential exercises that are specifically designed for the development of self-awareness. There will be time for questions and optional sharing amongst group members. We will meet for 60-75 minutes on zoom. Each call will be recorded, and yours to keep.

 

Please contact me with questions and for the dates as the dates change each month.
Fall Dates:

November 18th, 12-1:15pm EST.

 

Where: Zoom, link sent after payment is received.

Cost: $15, paypal to llmeuser@me.com, subject line “Gathering.”

To read more about embodiment:

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/05/embodiment-10-things-to-know-about-this-buzz-word-lisa-meuser/

For more, visit my blog, where I write almost exclusively about embodiment. http://integrativehealingnow.com/blog/

Aliveness Communion

I long

to know

what it is like

to be in the

mind

of a baby

*

A time when

solidity and

certainty

aren’t The main

objectives

of the mind.

*

When inherent curiosity

and the space

of the neural pathways

gives way

to fluidity

with ease.

*

When

“I know”

doesn’t

even

register

or

matter

*

And the

viscerality

of uncertainty

is a way of being

instead of

occasionally remembered.

*

To be lost

in this moment

and commune

with you.

Aliveness;

here, now.

Wow.