Monthly Archives: September 2013

Midwifery for emotions and senstations

I had a client email me that her friend thinks her daughter needs a drill sergeant approach, and wanted to know what I thought.

“Every person on the entire planet is calling for love- all of our actions are begging for love. This includes the daughter, as well as your friend. And love comes in various forms, sometimes in the drill sergeant approach, sometimes in other ways.

My own approach is not the drill sergeant approach. In my experience, people get that approach from lots of people. My approach is a bit more soft and gentle, to get at the darkness that lies within, that is usually buried. That darkness, those blockages, often run our lives unconsciously. A drill sergeant doesn’t provide the environment for them to safely reveal themselves. I provide the environment for them to safely reveal themselves, so that they can be truly felt, experienced, and then integrated. The daughter seems to be energetically and unconsciously running familial patterns. I’m guessing she has lots of anxiety, fear, anger, and sadness. All those emotions need to be felt fully, if they are to be released, if they are to stop running her live unconsciously.

I hope she finds someone who can help midwife her with those energies and emotions. Sounds like your friend could use someone like that too.”

Wanting to know!


I want to know things, get information, understand- I want to take understanding and use it- to drive a stake into the ground, all as an attempt to create safety and security, certainty and control. The formation of subtle identities gets built upon this knowing, and i try to rest my hat here, in this illusion of certainty.

I can try to do this all I want, but it is just an attempt to try and find certainty and control in a universe that is always moving, where there is no real certainty or control. Information, experience, and moment to moment knowing is not permanent, but instead like leaves blowing in the wind, always changing in the forever moment of “now.”

When seen in this way, the wanting to know is seen as futile. Beingness continues, without the creation of identiy, without making things to be certain, without the grasping for control, and without anything being personal.

Instead everything, life is seen for what it is, movements and expressions of form, within the formless of all.