Shame has a bad rap, and it seems that one would rather acknowledge just about anything rather than admit they are experiencing a sense of shame. In my own journey and in working with clients I’m finding that shame is at the heart of suffering. It’s at the root of identified conditioning and trauma. Instead of acknowledging that which comes with identified conditioning and trauma (pain body), we turn away from it, and tendrils of shame show up. Shame fuels harsh self-judgment, and keeps things in a state of separation. It’s what gets in the way of love. And it’s what least wants to get felt and acknowledged, keeping the cycle of shame (disfunctionally) alive.
Shame is thought of as bad to such an extent that shame about feeling shame arises! It’s as if shame shouldn’t actually be here, or couldn’t possibly be here. In the sense that people deny trauma and identified conditioning, people also deny the experience of shame. In my reality tunnel shame is just like any other thing that arises. It’s just another aspect of being human. To a certain extent, we all have varying levels of traumatic experiences, identified conditioning, and shame. Shame is actually quite normal, natural, and is always evolving.
Shame is the ultimate thing to feel- and here’s the secret you might not want to know: it’s the key to freedom. It may be like jumping into death, but after thes jump there is rebirth. Like anything, once it’s seen and felt it doesn’t stay. In my own experience I see and feel it pretty fast now, and in that recognition and willingness to dive into it, it doesn’t stay for long. A beautiful alchemy takes place.
Turn towards shame, not away from it. It’s here to set you free! You don’t have to do it alone- there are resources and people ready to support you. Please contact me with questions or for resource suggestions.