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New Year’s Clarity: A Conscious Relationship with 2019


Stefan Armoneit

New Year’s Clarity

I’m not a big fan of New Year’s resolutions, but I do enjoy New Year’s clarity. 

New Year’s clarity? 

At the start of a year, I often connect with a word, a phrase, or an intention that is calling out for me to find clarity with. Hidden gifts always await as the the word, phrase, or intention weaves its way through my being. 

In 2019 I knew it was time for me to be more *in* the world, while not getting lost in it, as has always been my patterning. My intention for the year became “being in the world *and* being of Love.” This was a radical change for me in that in the years prior I had been focusing on my clients and my personal life.

My intention for the year became Being in the world and Being of Love.

Since jumping out of that bubble, I have participated more fully than ever as a waking being, in an unwoken world, and it has been one of the most rewarding and learning endeavors of my life. It revealed internal territory I hadn’t worked through, as well as a depth of agency and resourcing that I hadn’t realized was waiting within me to embody. 

I have yet to name where clarity of focus will land for 2020, but my journey of 2019 helped me to stay turned towards some vital questions that I’m sure will help. It is powerful, and necessary, for me to connect with what truly aligns in my being, in whatever it is that I’m doing – on a day to day, moment by moment, basis. While getting honest with myself has not always been easy, it is now central to my well-being. As such, connecting to these questions has been immensely profound:

  • Are the activities of my life in simple alignment? 
  • If not, why am I engaged with them? 
  • If not, do I need to step away from them, or
  • How might I bring more of me into these areas so that I feel an alignment with what is important to me?

A year of increased integrity, a year with more alignment, a year of discovery and deep learning all came as I continued to keep asking myself these simple questions. Throughout the course of the year, these questions became living embodiments. Did I stumble along the way? Absolutely. Were there challenges? Yes! Through difficult times these questions helped me to return to what was important for me, over and over again. 

Without even trying, I noticed that the various aspects of my life were aligning synchronistically with one another as I journeyed with being in the world and being of Love.  Acknowledging my hidden racism; deepened clarity of living from Love first; moving from head wisdom to embodied wisdom of Love; an amazing  conscious leadership training that helped me further awaken to ancestral wisdom and the healing power of our stories; conscious social justice engagement in my community; a weekend of  discovering 5 Rhythms; a powerful Heal Thyself Diversity Training; continued explorations into unwinding the dominant narrative that is perpetuated by culture, and lives in all our psyches; and lastly, the paradoxical co-existence of fear, hope and dreams.  

Although being in the world and being of Love[1] will no doubt be a life long journey these questions helped me get more deeply resourced clarity again and again. When I wanted to give up, when I doubted, when I didn’t know how, I gently and compassionately returned to these simple yet wise inquiries. And of course I got help from my support team, who help me to journey into my hidden areas. 

These questions – and many others(!) – will continue to burn alive in my being as I move into the unknown of 2020. I look forward to further deepening, creating, and relating with, and to, Life and Love. 

What about you? What draws you into conscious participation with 2020?  May you find some clarity, and let it be so! 


[1] To read more about my learnings of 2019, here is a short piece written for an event I presented at, titled “Evolving through Deep questions.”

Evolving Through Deep Questions

This is an excerpt from a larger piece…   shared the day I graduated from the WWFaC conscious leadership training. I look forward to sharing more.


An intention- which became my motto- whispered deep into my ear and into my heart as 2019 was being birthed: Be in the world *and* Be of Love.

Be in the world *and* Be of Love.

Let me first say, phew. And let me second say, PHEW. 
What an intention. Surely, I will be journeying to embody this for the rest of my life. 

2019 was a year where 3 different learnings converged, and where I became their constant student.

Learning number one came early in the year through a BTCC (Building a Thriving Compassionate Community) think tank. Stephanie Solomon presented something she’d recently learned from a Crossroads anti-racism conference: the difference between values of dominant culture and the values of transformative culture[1].  

The tenets of our current modern day culture are rooted in values of dominant culture: scarcity mentality, based in competitive and individual preservation, focused on outcome,  either/or and  us/them thinking (ie binary narratives of good, bad, right, or wrong), and a hierarchy of power which is exclusionary and immersed in secrecy. Many of the institutions that we know and love are rooted in values of dominant culture. They are our “normal.”

Then there are the tenets of transformative culture: a resonance of abundance, collaboration and shared power, transparency and accountability, both /and thinking, a focus on the process/the journey, and an inclusion of history. Transformative culture is alive with paradox. WWFaC[2] is rooted in transformative values. In our current culture, this is the exception. 

Learning number two started to drop in not too long after Stephanie’s think tank through Angeles Arrien’s The Four Fold Way[3]. In this book she reveals the ways of the shadow, and the ways ancestral wisdom. 

As I was reading, I discovered that the ways of the shadow often mirrored dominant culture, while the ways of ancestral wisdom often mirrored transformative culture. The overlap was remarkable. 

Angeles Arrien helps us connect to different gifts and shadows through the study of 4 archetypes- the warrior, the healer, the teacher, and the visionary. In short, the four archetypes invite us to: 

  • Show up, and choose to be present. 
  • Pay attention to what has heart and meaning.
  • Tell the truth without blame or judgement.
  • Be open to outcome, not attached to outcome. 

When we lose our way, as we tend do as humans, we find ourselves in the shadows. If we are willingly learning all the while, we eventually make ourselves back to sacred wisdom. And so it goes while we are engaged in the journey of conscious embodiment.

The way learnings 1 and 2 swirled amidst each other was immensely powerful for me, as I saw this in the interplay in the psyches of my clients (and my own), daily. In their own profound ways, they both revealed various narratives we’re taught in this culture, and at the same time showed us that there is another way, if we are willing to courageously move into what’s possible. To do so truly is a radical happening in today’s culture, which encourages and rewards the status quo, and punishes and belittles those who dare to do, or even want, something different. 

Throughout this year, it was constantly humbling to discover how deeply entrenched the dominant narrative and the shadow were woven into me in so many unsuspecting ways. And at the same time, it was deeply inspiring and hopeful, as there were very real tools and practices shared which could be utilized alongside other practices I already have in place. In the true nature of transformative and ancestral values, these learnings carried a spirt of compassion and spaciousness throughout them. 

These two learnings were the backdrop of a third learning– the most encompassing learning I’ve ever known- Love First.

There is less to write about with this learning, because Love is an experiential happening. It’s not an emotion, and not a feeling: it’s a Presence, one which is viscerally and unquestionably  Known. The first two learnings laid a profound groundwork from which I could more deeply employ Love First. 

Over the course of this year I persistently asked myself questions: am I employing the dominant narrative in some way? Am I stuck in shadow territory? Am I drawing from transformative values and ancestral wisdom? Am I moving from Love First? These questions, and all their tenants, became my rubric for how I moved in the world. 

I got support from trusted embodied guides as I dove into those questions. We often found deep layers of dominant narrative/shadow patterning interwoven into my personality. While my support team was instrumental in helping me reconnect with clarity, ancestral wisdom and transformative values, it was up to me to be willing to ask these questions, and then explore how I would participate with being the world, as well as  if that participation would be of Love. 

No one could answer these questions for me. No one could give me the right answer. No one could tell me if I was in direct alignment with my intention for the year, be in the world, and be of Love. It was up to me to constantly pause, reflect, feel, and most importantly learn. It was up to me to tell the truth, first to myself, and then with those I was participating with. I stumbled over and over and over. And just as many times I found a truth that no one could sway me from because it was from a place that was between me and God, between me and Love. 

These questions are now a part of who I am, and I am grateful. Thank you, Mary Ann and Beth for your wisdom and mentorship. Love First, is embodied here. 



This is an excerpt from a larger piece…   shared the day I graduated from the WWFaC conscious leadership training. I look forward to sharing more. If there is something that jumps out at you, that you would like to know more of, please contact me!


[1] I’ve blogged about this a few times, mainly here and  here.  

[2] A local organization, where I completed the consciousness leadership training. 

[3] We studied this extensively throughout the course. A short synopsis, or to order 

January Embodied Gathering: Being in the World, and Being of Love, Together in Relationship

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We live through relationship. In relationship to air and to ground, to form and the formless, we live, love and grow. A safe community is the perfect place to discover our forever created relationship with life.

Belonging, community, connection and a healthy nervous system are crucial for our well-being. We gather to become more intimate with, and more available for, our life.  For those who would like support in their journey, this is an affordable, safe option.

A safe container for us evolve together

Every day I witness immense freedom when people feel safe enough to honestly connect to their actual lived experiences. There is often immense freedom that comes when sorrows and celebrations- our stories- are allowed, named, spoken, expressed, and felt. 
Being heard in a supportive environment conveys and births a sense of embodied empowerment that is known from deep within the being. Neuropathways shift, one’s sense of safety in the world changes, and relationships with life are transformed. Possibilities we couldn’t even imagine reveal themselves.

Join me in this as we gather and explore together. Using tools and practices I have developed and learned through my trainings in holding sacred circles, I will compassionately and gently hold space as we gather together. We will use simple yet profound experiential practices to slowly and gently explore our unique lives. We may spend some time in spontaneous writing, as previous groups have found that to be deeply empowering, and yet no previous writing experience is needed. Sharing and participation will always be optional. 

These gatherings are sacred spaces where everyone is welcome. People going through their Dark Night of the Soul experiences, survivors of abuse, people who have had awakenings and want community, people struggling in their life in various ways, and/or people simply wanting connection along their journey are likely to find home in these gatherings. 

Gatherings focus on practical and experiential exercises specifically designed for the development of self-awareness, self-love, safety and a healthy nervous system. Each gathering is organically shaped around attendees’ needs and wants. Each gathering includes a guided rest, time for questions and sharing, ways to heal the nervous system, and ways to engage in self-inquiry. Participation is always optional.

In this group we honor our experiences and we learn that we don’t have to pretend, or hide, or run. We gather together in a welcoming space where we are allowed to be exactly who we are, exactly as we are, and through slow, simple experiential practices we realize that profound safety can be found right here and now.

Safety is important. Our bodies, our spirits, and our psyches function with more well-being when safety is known from within.

We live in a culture that often disempowers and creates stress, a culture that conditions us to find our well-being in people, places, and superficial activities and things – without teaching us sustainable, empowering safety from the inside out. As such, we often don’t know how to cope with existing in an overwhelming world, or how to recover from traumatic experiences. Many of us have developed post-traumatic stress as a result, and have forgotten that safety is possible.

We can learn. By providing a safe environment for this deliberate purpose, we can slowly and gently learn what it’s like to feel safe. 

We come together to find safety in our experiences and discover that we are safe – even when we have fear, trauma or loud core stories and emotions. 

All are welcome here regardless of political affiliation, sexual orientation, race, gender or background. You are important, and appreciated, whoever you are. 

Upcoming dates:

January 5, 2:30pm EST

January 19, 8pm EST

You can come to one, or both!  We will meet for 60-75 minutes on Zoom. Each call will be recorded, and yours to keep. Please contact me with questions, concerns or future dates: LLMEUSER@ME.COM 

Investment: Sliding scale, what you can afford – $10-25 per gathering. Anything over $20 goes to my scholarship fund. To sign up please send a PayPal payment to LLMEUSER@ME.COM, subject line “Gathering” along with your email address so I can send you a link.  

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Lisa is like a cocoon for expansion and love.  I really love working with her.  She walks her talk and creates a space for acceptance and non-judgment and I’m better able to accept and not judge myself and others.  My heart has opened in my work with her.  So grateful.  

 It is quite breathtaking to experience you working with a group; watching and listening to your communion with who-they-really-are. You have a gift, Lisa.

 You represent what Adyashanti talks about:  “A safe place for the world to come and rest.” You are that safe, benign presence in the world.

I have listened to the recording many times since our gathering. It continues to support me. 

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